Im gay and i seriously want to be straight and be like most people who are free to express their sexuality and personality.
it’s ridiculous that some people treat gays like me as nonhuman beings.
more than 4 years ago, a girl who sat near me in my grade 9 ceramics class even whispered to her friend in front…
Honey, you ARE normal.
Being gay doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. You don’t have to change.
If you try to live like a straight man you will be totally miserable, and you might screw up other peoples lives as well.
Just be yourself, it’s the way God made you!
First, you need to learn to let go. Holding on to something some high school kid said more than four years ago is unhealthy. I know, i used to do the same thing. And she wasn’t trying to hurt your feelings, she was gossiping because she doesn’t understand gay people.
Second, you can’t change or pretend that your not gay. It won’t work, you need to learn to love yourself. Changing your mindset is a hard thing to do, you need to keep yourself busy so you don’t think about the negative things so often and when you aren’t out having fun you need to think positive.
Life is a bit ch. Being excepted doesn’t have to be, not everyone will like you and there is nothing you can do about. Hold onto your friends and go make new ones also even just talking to a person you’ll never see again will make you feel better about yourself for having the confidence.
Straight people have to struggle with criticism just as gay people do. But, It always seems as if the grass is greener on the other side. You can’t stop people from criticizing, you can avoid giving them a reason to, by being the best person you can possibly be, gay or straight. They should like you for who you are, regardless of your sexual orientation or they are not worthy of your attention. Maybe that girl in your ceramics class was whispering to her friend because she thought you were cute, but wanted to verify your orientation before risking a let down. Sometimes things aren’t quite as they seem. Maybe you should have confronted her about what you overheard and let her know who you are as a person. Believe in yourself and others will too. I’m a heterosexual christian female.
Of course you can try to be straight, anyone can pretend to be anything they want. Honestly, it won’t work though. I can tell you, high school sucks really bad. I discovered that I was gay around this time as well. I thought I could pull of the straight thing and guess what happened?
At first, at least for a few months it works. When you try to get into a relationship, it falls apart. Women aren’t stupid and they’re know if you sincerely love them. If you’re lucky, you’ll be able to keep a relationship for a whole 2-3 months. Your feelings will never deepen into true love and the relationship can’t last.
As you get older, things just become worse for you. Men peak sexually around 18-22 years old. The desire to be with men will become more and more overwhelming. At this point, if you’re in a “relationship” with a women, the desire to cheat with a man will be pretty strong.
Once you’ve kept up the lie for awhile you’ll notice that have mood swings. Most common among closeted men is anger and depression. Chances of drug and alcohol abuse among closeted men is significantly higher than openly gay men. Health risks for closeted men also include a higher risk of contracting HIV due to unsafe sex practices in, “discreet encounters”. This is in large part to not using condoms to increase the “discreetness”.
Being gay is natural and normal. You’re not a freak and you’re not sinful. There are plenty of men out there looking a long term relationship in the gay community, so you don’t have to worry about being alone 🙂
Otherwise, if you’re willing to destroy yourself emotionally and physically, pretend that you’re straight.
My friend, only those raised for confrontation and strength could live with being a minority surrounded by hostiles. You could no more be straight than a black man in the 50’s could hope to be white. Those who claim to be cured are sort of, but at an extreme price. They suffer delusions so strong that it blinds them to the truth, that they are still gay, and subconsciously, they still have the same urges. My suggestion to you is to find a support group. A group of like-minded friends. Even if you don’t know any gay people, there are straight people out there friendly to the cause. It will help you feel less isolated. Being lonely isn’t healthy, and can be devastating to a persons psyche. Good luck!
okay, i know its hard to admit to other people that you’re gay, but there is nothing you can do about it. it’s who you are, and if you’re straight then your world would be even more miserable because that’s not what you want. just be yourself and try to ignore the other people, or just say, yea I’m gay. it’s none of you’re business, I am who I am nad you can’t change me. some people out there are like that, they reject the different people in the world, but you guys truly make our world unique. take it from me, stay like you are because you’ll be happier… one day you’ll find a special guy that will treat you right and make you happy and that will make all your insecure feelings go away. people who don’t support you guys because they think it’s wrong have some serious growing up to do because no matter what people will always be different and believe different things… people that are gay have a right to be because they want to be, it’s no one elses business. So stay how you are and live your life regardless to who is watching or to who is telling you what to do. It’s your life, live it how you want.
Not everyone feels that way about gay people. I have several gay friends and I dont know anybody that would make them feel bad for who they are and what their sexual preferences are.
How is your self esteem? Are you comfortable and happy with who you are? I am guessing not since you are asking the question you are asking. I think I would see what I could do to make myself more comfortable with who I am. I would also not pay attention to those who are going to judge who I am and the life I live.
As far as changing from gay to striaght I am not absolutely for certain what can be done. Just make sure that any changes that you make to yourself in an attempt to change yourself is really what you want to do.
You can’t change.
The first step is to accept it.
The second is to say “To hell with whoever doesn’t accept me for who I truly am!”
People can be cruel, so very cruel, but that can’t stop you from meeting other people like you.
People will hate you no matter what. With 6 billion people in this world, you can’t be friends with everyone.
Being gay is like being any other minority, you are misunderstood. People will often stereotype you, but it’s your job to deter them from ignorance.
But some may not want to change their ideas, so those are the ones that you have to avoid. If they don’t like someone for a minor detail such as being gay, then why would you want to be friends with them anyway?
Sounds kind of nit-picky.
Have a wonderful life, and may no one stand in your way.
you cannot change your sexuality. You are who you are. However, you can change how you feel about yourself and learn to accept and to love yourself. Thats what you need.
And trust me….you can have everything you think a straight person has…..a loving family, kids, dog, and even a white pickett fence. Just because you are gay does not mean you cant have this. It’s yours for the taking.
But, before you can even begin to even inch towards any of that…..you need to learn to accept yourself for who you are and be confident in who you are. Once you get that, you will not believe the number of different doors that will open for you.
good luck! 🙂
Being who you are may not be easy but it’s always best to be yourself. Even if you managed to pull off ‘living straight’, if that’s not really you then it wouldn’t work in the end and you would more then likely be miserable and depressed. Live for you and don’t worry about what people think. If the people around you don’t support you find new ones who will.