I believe in God but I’m a lesbian… Help please.?

I have always felt a connection to God and believed but I cannot deny I also love women. It doesn’t feel wrong and I cannot understand how it could be. I had a near death experience recently and felt bad and asked for forgiveness for a lot of things, but not this at all. I do not see it as a sin. Should I even…

Do you merely BELIEVE in God or do you actually LOVE Him? If you love Him, you will want to keep His commandments, and that includes living a life to please Him, not yourself.

That’s what it boils down to. We put Him in charge of our life, not our own selfish desires. As long as you follow your own desires, you don’t HAVE faith in God, you are merely looking through the window at Him, not being WITH Him.


I’m an agnostic, but I know a fair amount about Christianity. Most interpretations by major Christian faiths say that it is a sin, but everyone sins, even the saved.

You don’t feel it’s wrong and I’m glad to hear that, because people can argue all day long about what religious document is right and what interpretation is wrong, but I think you understand in your heart that the important thing is the all loving God. Search yourself, and I’ll bet that is a fundamental basis for your belief to begin with. If that’s the case then you believe the love trumps everything. I suggest you focus on the love and forgiveness aspects of your faith and then do your best to come to terms with the details, no one has the details figured out anyway, or there wouldn’t be 1,000 denominations.

You may also want to look into a church known as Unitarian Universalists, they have a take on the subject that may really open your eyes and help you find peace about your situation.

Well, you have to wonder… If you feel that you are a lesbian, and have no choice over the matter, as you were born this way, how would you expect it to be sin or something that is wrong? Did your God not create you as a lesbian? or at least create the option of being a lesbian? As an atheist, I would have to question the validity of the bible… Hey… if you are enjoying being a lesbian, and you are hurting nobody, why not continue being yourself?

Also, I would be cautious when reviewing your religious views while you were dealing with your near death experience… you were probably not in the most stable state of mind.

Sexuality preference is not a simple character “flaw” that can be “fixed”, like others may say. Ask any heterosexual if he/she should be homosexual, and you will receive (in most cases) a sharp no. Is their no any different than your no? If your God says that homosexuality is a sin, then you should wonder if he is your God.

I think you are facing a problem of your childhood mistake. May be you were allowed to sleep with girls and that experience may have made you a lesbian. But if you pray continuously and get help from psychologist you will be able to overcome this feeling.Now a days many denomination accept lesbianism and homosexuality . But Bible does not approve it. Better to overcome your problem .

The tree of knowledge in the garden of Eden —the “forbidden fruit” was called that because it gave the person the “impression” that THEY knew what was good and what was evil and so they didn’t have to listen to what God said what was good and what was evil. This is exactly what you are doing now. Homosexual acts are sin and by you not believing God and trusting in your own sinfulness—how can you avoid a very sad end?

You have a cross to bear is all—you must practice celibacy and not have relations with women. The disorder is not what is sinful—we are all sinful. It is the carrying out of the temptation much the same as a person given to the sin of gluttony is committing sin by eating to excess.

Just enjoy life, and try to set a good example for others.
Prabhupada once said, even the alcoholic can approach God by understanding the taste of wine is from God.
So, with the pleasures in life, same, this is a gift from God.
The final test being, Does this remind me of God.
I sugest reading teachings of Prabhupada.
Dont get caught up in others opinions.
Better a non violent lesbian, than a meat eating saint

I know of people who have left homosexuality because they felt a strong connection to God. They loved God’s laws more than they love themselves. It doesn’t mean in the least that this was easy for them but they do it. There are religious groups that allow for lesbians and homosexuals but this goes against what the Bible says, so it’s really a choice of who you want to serve, God or your own desires. I have to fight against things I want to do (not this, but another sin) and I would much rather live the way God wants me to. 1 Corinthians 6: 9,10.

Why ask us?

Should you not be seeking God?

He has revealed in His word the Bible. Then ask Him to show you from His word.

Consider what are the implications of these quotations for all of us, not just for lesbians. Do we not all have character defects? Have we not all turned aside, each to his own way?

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:
That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.

Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:

Is it not a work of God for those who choose Him above their own desires?

And will He not also provide for you in the way that He approves which through Him will be greater happiness?

Personally? If you’re determined to stay in the Faith (& that’s your personal choice), I’d suggest looking at a Xian Sect that accepts your Sexuality.

Just because some Bigots abuse the Xian message to spread their brand of poison, does not mean there are not Xians out there who will unconditionally accept Gays.


You can still have your beliefs, and be a lesbian.
Who cares if other religious people will ever accept homosexuality? Stop trying to please others, and live to make yourself happy. Don’t let those who think being gay is a sin bring you down.

Homosexuality will always be a sin (Leviticus 18:22). But so will adultery and murder. To show us how impossible it is not to sin, Jesus said lust was as bad as adultery and unjustified anger as bad as murder (Matthew 5:21, 27). Do you see where I’m headed with this?

Paul said he wanted to stop sinning, but couldn’t (Romans 7:14-20). And the harder he tried not to sin, the more he sinned. He finally realized that it was the sin nature within him that was causing all the trouble. In other words, not one of us can stop sinning for very long.

What’s really important you understand is that God knows this. He cannot condemn us for being sinners. He tells us to ask forgiveness and it will be immediate (1 John 1:9). He restores us to full righteousness because we are incapable of doing it on our own.

That you see your attraction to women as okay, doesn’t mean it’s right with God. The bible says there is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death (Proverbs 14:12). It also says the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). So the question becomes: Do you wish to please yourself or God?

Most of the sins I commit come from a desire to please me. It feels good. Sometimes, it even feels right. But always, ALWAYS, God’s Spirit convicts me of my sin. That’s when I must humble myself before the Lord and ask forgiveness.

If you feel no remorse, no loss of that relationship between you and God, then you do not have the Holy Spirit in you. You will always feel that what you do is right in your eyes, even when it is wrong in God’s eyes.

No Holy Spirit means no relationship with God. You are not His child because the bible says that right belongs only to those who trust in Jesus for their salvation (John 1:12).

You will never be refused entry into heaven for sinning. Not even for your desire to be with women. All sins can be forgiven except for one. That is the refusal to accept the only remedy available for you to get into heaven. That’s the whole reason Jesus died for you – so you would no longer carry the burden of your sins.

The thief on the cross is in heaven today. No doubt there are lesbians in heaven too. Neither were good enough to save themselves so Jesus did it for them. He died to set them free. Everyone who is heaven-bound has admitted they are sinners and has confessed that Jesus is their only means of salvation (Romans 10:9-10).

It’s up to you. You can be a sinner who will be denied entry into heaven or you can be a sinner made righteous by Jesus who will rein with Him as co-heir to His throne (Romans 8:16-17). Let that one seep in.

You can spend eternity in the outer darkness or eternity traveling the universe at the speed of thought, in a body that will never grow old or die.

You can be where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth or let God wipe away every tear and be where there is no more death, or mourning, or crying or sorrow (Revelation 21:4).

When the Pharisees (the teachers of the religious law) asked Jesus why he ate with tax collectors and prostitutes, He told them in essence that it was these people who needed to hear His message of salvation. Now you’ve heard it too.

Jesus gave us a new command – to love one another. I offer you Christ’s love.

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