Alright so me and my Bf of almost a year broke up 2 weeks ago. We broke up because he said that he was bored and that there wasn’t emotion in the relationship. But really it was because we stop going out and just stay at his house every weekend. Because A we didn’t have the money to go out. Even though i had money…
You can always find a new boyfriend, he doesn’t seem to be into the relationship the same way you are.
It’s expected that you will feel lonely after having ended a long term relationship. There isn’t any magic that will make things better in an instant. What you should do is keep trying to spend time with your friends. Make sure your close friends understand how you feel. They will be able to make time for you. Enjoy your life outside of just a relationship. It may not happen overnight, but you should start to get back into the swing of things with friends, even make new friends! Meet people at work, just invite people that you like out.
A few important things to remember:
When you go out, try not to dwell on the sadness of your situation. Try to have fun. Real friends are real friends they will help you through it, but if you’re constantly a downer, people won’t want to continue hanging out with you.
You’ve learned an important lesson. Never, ever let a relationship be the only thing in your life. No matter how in love you are with somebody, you should always have your own social life and other people close to you. People need a network of sorts, not one person to lean everything on, because when that collapses, there’s nothing to catch your fall, and I expect that’s what you’re feeling right now.
Most importantly, give it time. You can’t expect to be happy right away. It seems like a difficult situation you’re going through. Put all of your effort into spending time with other friends and being happy. Just have fun as much as you can.
I hope this helps a bit. Good luck, you’ll be OK 🙂
oh im so sorry. i know how you feel, ive been there. it feels like youre losing your best friend and really, i guess you are. but heres the thing, you have just found out that youre one & only special someone is NOT him. it hurts now but at least youve found out that he doesnt have those feelings for you. youre crushed and your heart is broken, and its gonna take time for you to pick up the pieces but, you will. would you rather waste another year and a half with someone who doesnt love you the way you should be loved??
always remember, why do we fall? so we can learn to pick ourselves up again. theres a whole life out there, just waiting for you. stop looking back when you should be looking forward. i know its so so so hard to believe that everything will be ok but i promise you, there is a person out there that is made 100% for you. dont settle baby girl. hes out there and you gotta go through the wrong ones so that you can truly appreciate the right one when he comes along.
Loneliness is a feeling. Loneliness is one of the scourges of humanity, it seems to affect everyone regardless of age or ethnicity. Whether you’re a PhD or high school dropout, rich or poor, you’re equally vulnerable. What exactly is loneliness? It is a feeling that intimacy, understanding, friendship, and acceptance are missing from your life. It is a feeling of isolation or separation from others, a feeling of being all alone. You need to realize that loneliness is nothing more than a feeling. After all, you are not your arms, or legs, for they are just parts of your body. Similarly, you are not your feelings, which are just parts of your psyche. I hope that helps you get over your loneliness.
Put your shoulders back, relax, take a deep breath, know that there are many more wonder men in the world, and just because your family are far away from you, that does not mean that you cannot go out and make friends. You will be just fine, trust me.
Im sorry, Im sure every gurl has been in that situation, I know I have and Im trying to get over him now but all you can do is do stuff to keep you busy, work out, take a walk somewhere, try and do anything to keep him off your mind! You’ll find someone way better, if you really need some support then go see a psycotherapist.
awwww that was a sweet story i dont know but something about it made me interested in what u were saying i suppose i am going through the same kind of stuation thats why..well i havent broken up but im on the edge and actually maybe hes getting bored i need to excite him lol…ummm i really dont know what to advice u instead of keep urself busy no matter what u do its good that this weekend pasts buh have the other one planned so ur not all on ur own…on online make friends chat to them keep urself busy im sure u’ll get over it soon if u try…good luck i really dont know what else to suggest
been there done that – look I dont know how old you are but you will find a new boyfriend, the thing is if he really loves you he would not leave you for that reason it does not make any sense maybe he has met someone new sorry to be blunt but it probably is the case my dear. You will find someone else hun believe me there are plently more fish in the scene – we all get lonely I have friends who have been single for years it just how it foes – not everyone has to have a man in their life to make them happy! good luck
Get a really tiny bikini and sun bathe in the front yard. Be friendly with the guys who say hi. After a few of these guys you will really appreciate your b/f.
Have your b/f sell his new car and buy the best used toyota camry that fits in his budget with a 40 hour work week.
You will be a lot happier with a jerk who treats you like dirt than your hard-working boyfriend.
Get back out there. sitting at home will just make things worse. Mope around for a week then brush the dirt off and have some revenge sex.