Is it okay to not want to be happy?

Maybe i’m just feeling really sorry for myself now, but I just don’t know what to do with myself.

The past 7 months have been getting harder and harder. Sometime in March, my friend died of a heart attack. The same month, we had to put my dog and cat, who have I have been growing up with since I was born, to…

Death is a normal part of life. We all have to go through it. I feel like we have pretty much the same luck after reading that.

Ive had a close relative commit suicide about a year after one of my best friends shot themself in the face… Ive had pets stolen from me. Ive had to watch my bf go through the death of his fav pet. Ive been put in a program and my dad and his gf have been in and out of jail, even on my birthday!

You never get used to it. You never see it coming when it happens again. The pain will always be with you and you never learn to let go of them. The only things you can do is let them live on in your memories, dreams, and your heart. You can continue on with your life and try to make the best of it because eventually, we all die. We can’t take anything with us and it happens to everyone so you have to make the best of what you have while you can.

I mean, My uncle hung himself in a tree in the front of my grandparents yard. I cant imagine what was so horrible in his life that he couldn’t have come to anyone in our family about it and none of us will ever know why. I miss him and it crushes me everytime I think of him especially knowing Ill never see him again. Its normal to feel pain over the passing away of someone you love. Just dont let it bring you down, you have to be strong. Take it from me, I got in trouble with the law after the first death I ever had to go through.

Hope you start feeling better soon.
Things will turn out better for you sooner or later.
If it helps they usually say bad things happen in 3s and looks like your 3 have passed.

I know how you feel. A couple years ago.. In the 11th grade, I had a really tough time. I lost 3 friends that year.. Well, my bestfriends boyfriend.. my lab partner and my friends little sister. My friends boyfriend died in a car accident.. and the other 2 were suicides. That was by far the worst year of my life. At the time of all these deaths, I had a boyfriend. He was like my bestfriend too and he really helped me through alot of hardship. Not long after, he broke up with me. I think that losing someone close to you (even pets) it can really change who you are. I think I really lost myself that year.
Its hard to deal with the stress of all of it when you’ve got other things to worry about. Your own personal life.. you know? Not to mention school.
I’m not going to say that everything is going to be okay.. because I hated when people told me that. It’s something people say when they can’t be bothered to try and help you.
Losing a pet is hard. I’m sorry you had to do it more than once. My dog died right after my graduation last June.. we’ve had him since the day I started kindergarden. It was really hard for me.
Sometimes you’ve got to be strong. But that doesn’t mean that you need to keep things bottled up inside. It’s going to just stress you out more and more. If you feel like talking to someone, fell free to email me. [email protected]
Take care sweetheart. Don’t let it bring you down.

I think it’s fine if you don’t want to be happy right now. You’re in a tough place and you’ve gone through a lot in a short amount of time. You should let it out and deal with it the best you can.
Just don’t intentionally depress yourself. It’s fine if you need to break down and cry every once in a while. But you have to realize that you need to move on soon or you’ll get used to being depressed and it will turn into your everyday attitude.
Just do what you need to do to feel better and talk with people you trust. They’ll listen and you’ll feel better.

That’s just awful. I feel for you. Several years ago, after being in and out of the hospital many times, my mother died. Then my best friend from childhood died. Then a couple of months later my cat died unexpectedly – the cat who followed us around the house and slept with me at night. I was miserable. I didn’t even want to do the things I used to enjoy doing like playing a musical instrument or playing internet games. I did not think I would enjoy them at all, and that if I did I would feel guilty about it. It takes time to get past those feelings.

I found I did feel a bit better if I did my wash and folded everything, or did something else simple and constructive. And I was able to watch a movie because it’s passive and lets your mind think about something else for a bit. But I think it took a couple of months before I could enjoy doing anything like crafts or playing music without feeling bad about it.

Hugs and take care of yourself. It will get better.

When I was 16, I felt like I was 30. People don’t think so, but sometimes people in their teens can feel like they are a lot older than what they are. Now I am nearly 50 and I seem to be stuck at 35 or so. Helps that I don’t look my age. I think it’s horrible to have so many losses in a short time. I think you should cry and get it all out. I have two cats around 15 that I worry about all the time. If you want to email me, feel free.

Its very hard to lose pets that you have known since you were young.. Much less,,lose a friend whom did not die from age.. Its not wrong to feel sad,,and even like you don’t know how to get relief from the sorrow.. I lost my father when I was six years old,,and grew up longing for his company.. Its hard to accept death,,because it is so permanent and you realize you will never see or have the company of the person or pet again..But trust me,,you will get past this,,and you should get a new pet or pets whichever is your wish.. As far as your friend,,you have lost the physical presence of that person,,but as far as what you both had between you ,,no one or no thing can ever take that away from you.. And when you think of them,,you will always have pleasant memories..Only time will make the loss more tolerable,,and time will heal your hurt..What I have always found to get me past the loss of the deceased,,is to occupy myself as much as I can until the loss subsides.. Believe me you will ! I wish you the best in your future.. You seem like a very level headed person,,and that will serve you well in your life’s journey !! Good Luck !! SOLOMON

Meg, we are on the same boat. If you feel comfortable in that state of mind and as long as you are not hurting yourself and you eat good diet then you are just alright. I think you are compassionate person who cares so much for your love ones. You have a big heart but don’t be sad because your pets were cared and loved before they had their final rest. Just don’t regret things you haven’t done because it’s no use. Think that you are unique for being who you are and that makes you special. I used to be like you when I was teenager I think like a 30 year-old, now Im 30 I think like a teenager..LOL

You sound quite healthy, positive, and normal to me. Just keep working through your feelings, and don’t try doing anything outrageous or dangerous like drinking or drugs, and I’m sure you will become an even stronger person. I do hope you find someone thats mature to lean on soon. Hang in there, life has a funny way of changing when you least expect it.

It’s okay not to want to be happy. It really happens. But then, you shouldn’t stop yourself from being happy if the situation calls for it. Just think of this, you are not the only person in the world who got problems. In fact, there are more people who have greater problems and burden than you. So, cheer up. The world doesn’t end in one sad chapter. Life should continue and you must learn to move on.

I am sorry for your pain. Your life is very stressful and although you want to be the strong one for everyone else, I think it is time for you to be a little selfish and help yourself now. You should speak with a counselor, priest or teacher anyone who can help you through this rough time in your life . You will be alright, you just need some direction. Lots of luck to you.

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